Game Dilemma - LSU vs attending daughter's game - Page 4

TSUBAMAFAN · November 5th, 2009, 12:34 PM

Go to your Daughter's game. If you can pick up the game on radio or other media that is great, if not watch the recording. I have three daughters playing, two in college and one in high school. You never know what you might miss. Watching my daughter hit her first home run or two of my daughters turn an unbelievable double play or recording an unassisted triple play or going four-for-four from three-point range or fouling off thirteen pitches with two outs and the bases loaded before hitting a grand-slam mean more to me than watching a game that I have no impact on. My girls know what Alabama football means to me, my office & home are covered in "BAMA". They also know that they mean more to me. Another aspect of being at your children's game is the possiblity of injury. I have always been there when they were injured, a couple of times severly. Have I watched every game they have played? No, just everyone that I could. There have been times when my wife & I had to go to different games, but we were there if we could be. Watching and following Alabama football is my favorite form of entertainment, and I allow very few things to interfere, but family always comes first.

Relayer · November 5th, 2009, 12:36 PM

I miss lots of games because I go to Chattanooga to watch my daughter's rowing competitions.

I follow the games through cell phone updates and then watch the replay.

I'd much rather watch my daughter competing that to see a football game, even if it is Bama. Easy choice, when you think about it a little bit.

BamaScooter16 · November 5th, 2009, 12:38 PM

My oldest is a cheerleader for the peewee league. Her games start at 10:30 so I've had to miss a few games. I also have to go to work every Saturday at 3:30 so I've actually listened to Eli for more games in the past 2 years than I have actually watched.

TidePrideGA · November 5th, 2009, 12:39 PM

Its one game, I imagine your daughter would understand if you missed it.

timmer0911 · November 5th, 2009, 12:39 PM

Man.....why didn't I think about this before?!?!? I'll pull an Urban Meyer!! I'll complain about the referee, er I mean, umpire.....they'll throw me out of the tournament. Then, I can run home, watch the game, and once my daughter gets home, I can muster up some tears (should be easy since we will have punched our ticket to Atlanta) and blame those MEAN OLE OFFICIALS for throwing me outta the tournament.

stlimprov · November 5th, 2009, 12:44 PM

	Quote:	SavannahDare
	This is why so much of our youth have such a sense of entitlement. And, no, giving them too much now does not automatically translate into them wiping your backside when you're old.

I think that sense of entitlement is a lot more complicated than that. Both time with one's child and time without one's child can be treated as, and thus taught as, entitlement.

I agree, to the extent that the time one spends should be about building relationship with one's child, not about treating time like a thing on an account sheet. Ultimately, healthy relationships tend to have balance.

It can be far too easy for people to spend a lot of time with their children but never actually give them their full attention. I think that "full attention" is the key part: spending lots of time poorly is of little benefit, and can be a detriment. I suspect that when we're spending time well, we also have a sense of when to back off, for our sake and theirs.

Turning back to the original post: go to the game or don't, what you teach and model for your child is more about why you make the choice you do.

timmer0911 · November 5th, 2009, 12:44 PM

	Quote:	TSUBAMAFAN
	Go to your Daughter's game. Watching and following Alabama football is my favorite form of entertainment, and I allow very few things to interfere, but family always comes first.

AMEN!!! You said that much better than I tried to......my passion for Bama football is extremely intense and very, very few things interfere with it. My family happens to be one of em.

MegaVars · November 5th, 2009, 01:00 PM

	Quote:	SavannahDare
	This is why so much of our youth have such a sense of entitlement. And, no, giving them too much now does not automatically translate into them wiping your backside when you're old.

What about wiping the drool off your chin or feeding you?

ReturnToGlory · November 5th, 2009, 01:12 PM

I tell my family over and over that I'll go to all the family reunions they want me to, just not during Alabama football. There are 52 weekends in the year, somehow my dad's side of the family has their reunion on the 3rd Saturday in October. My dad made me go when I was young, but allowed me to make my own choice when I got to be a teenager. I've only been to one reunion since. This year, while the family was at the reunion, I was sitting at Bryant-Denny Stadium.

My dad, who was a peanut farmer (retired now), told my sister when she got married that she could have her wedding anytime she wanted, but that if she scheduled it during his busy season, either planting or harvesting, that he wouldn't be there. Needless to say, she came up with a date that he could live with.

mlh · November 5th, 2009, 01:13 PM

It's a no-win situation...

Just go fishing.

I'm still trying to figure out what an "attending daughter" is.

willie52 · November 5th, 2009, 01:14 PM

Well -- you could tell her what you want for an early Christmas present (be at the game) and that way she is doing something for you and you have her blessing.

My wife and I are both retired military and have spent months apart from our kids thanks to Uncle Sam (they hated my cooking by the way - burnt pizza, burnt water, etc.) but they adapt. I went to all my kids games (that I could) as well as coached peewee football, T-ball, and baseball. In all these comments I don't think I saw "it's as important to take time for yourself as it is taking time for your kids". It is very important for all of you.

Just tell her the truth and it shall set you free. Kids are remarkable at adapting and as long as it's not a habit or too frequent, you'll all be better for it. My girls are fine (should have told them about birth control - I have 8 grandkids) and my son is an officer in the Air Force so I'd say it depends upon how strong your and your daughter's relationship is.

Me, I would go to the game - I'm really selfish.

dayhiker · November 5th, 2009, 01:23 PM

I haven't seen where you're deciding about going to the Bama game or just watching it on TV. Seems that people have mentioned both issues.

If it's watching the game on TV versus the daughters game, that's a slam dunk for me. Part of the fun of watching the game is watching it WITH my family. I've watched a game or two alone this year and I didn't enjoy it nearly as much.

If it's going to the game versus the daughters game, then I'd be dang tempted to go to T-town.

AllTide · November 5th, 2009, 01:33 PM

	Quote:	esportsweekly
	Missing the commercials is nice, but sometimes I watch them to not remind me that its already happened. There IS something about knowing that its already happened versus knowing its live - even if you don't know the outcome.. make sense? of course, being there would be better --

Exactly. We rotate around hosting pre-game meals/party etc... with two other couples. One couple loves to play with the TIVO and re-run plays over and over while the game is going on. It drives me nuts knowing the game is going on and I'm 3 plays behind.

Back on subject go to your little girls game. I missed several Bama games when my oldest son was plaing ball and he graduated HS last year. It seems like yesterday he was playing micro midget football. Enjoy them while you can, they grow up and talk back to you.