I've never met him, but from what I've seen of recent interviews and on TV, Ray seems to have mellowed out quite a bit with age. Didn't he divorce and then remarry a much younger woman and even have another child by her? If so, that might explain a lot of it.
He did marry a much younger woman. Some thought that she was marrying him for money because she is very attractive and younger. Truth is, she is from the Del Champs family and has probably more money than he. See my post earlier as to how I know.