Family secrets you never knew as a kid but found out as an adult.

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As a kid there were a lot of things I had no clue about. I thought the little country neighborhood I grew up in was perfect, everybody got along and liked each other. It wasn't until I became an adult and long moved out of the neighborhood that at least four of the homes on our street had cheating spouses. I never knew that my dad (without knowing) helped one of the spouses lovers get his truck out of the ditch before the husband came home. Dad said he didn't realize what was going on until two days later suitcases were being thrown into the driveway by her soon to be ex husband. I never knew that the neighbor about eight houses up the street shot a .38 at another neighbor on the other end of the street with all of us kids playing in the yard. Dad had to go to court over that one. I never knew one of my uncles had cheated on my aunt for a big part of their marriage. They're still married to this day but I remember them coming out to the house on the weekends with my cousins. It was so much fun. We played, ran around and had a blast. Never did I ever think (as a kid) that my uncle would do anything like that. To be honest, at age 8 and 9 years old I didn't even know stuff like that happened.

But lord how becoming an adult removes the blinders you had as a child. Sometimes I wish I would have never found out stuff like that. :rolleyes:
 

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My great grandmother made a fortune running liquor during prohibition and may or may not have been a madame. She also practiced witchcraft. The liquor and withcraft are established fact. There's no hard evidence about the madame part, but supposedly, it was "common knowledge". She died at 94 and lived in a run-down shack as long as I knew her. I was shocked (SHOCKED, I tell you!) at all of the real estate that was part of her estate. It took my grandmother (her daughter) five or six years to sell it all. She knew about all of this, but nobody else but great grandma's attorney did.
 

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An ancestor of mine owned some gorgeous land adjoining the mountains in Marshall County, AL just north of AL. It's still there, but one has to don scuba gear & dive to the bottom of Lake Guntersville to see it.

(OK, that one's not as salacious as other family secrets in this thread.)

Turns out another ancestor had a wife & kids over in GA. Seems he got tired or bored or whatever, & moved himself to central AL sans wife & kids. Got married & sired more kids. I come from that 2nd batch. As one of my cousins said, "That explains a lot about us all, doesn't it?" :biggrin:
 

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I think there's a fair amount of adultery, illegitimacy, drunkenness, bootlegging, cheating, murdering, etc. in most of our family trees. Mostly it comes down to how much of it you can uncover.

p.s. - that may or may not be a confession, but it's certainly not a denial. ;)
 

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I think there's a fair amount of adultery, illegitimacy, drunkenness, bootlegging, cheating, murdering, etc. in most of our family trees. Mostly it comes down to how much of it you can uncover.

p.s. - that may or may not be a confession, but it's certainly not a denial. ;)
Pretty well sums up things that I was eventually allowed to know. Plus, a man who took 'spare the rod' to the extreme with his 9 kids; and may be the root of the 'crazy' that runs on that side.



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I think there's a fair amount of adultery, illegitimacy, drunkenness, bootlegging, cheating, murdering, etc. in most of our family trees. Mostly it comes down to how much of it you can uncover.

p.s. - that may or may not be a confession, but it's certainly not a denial. ;)
Too bad Facebook wasn't around back then.
 

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I learned after my grandfather passed away that as a young man in Greene County - late teens maybe? - his little sister had been raped by a neighbor boy. Late at night, my grandfather, his brothers and their father (my great grandfather) went down to his house with shotguns and, well, he was never seen again. At least that was the family secret that my mother told me after he had gone - don't know if it was true.

My other grandfather was a Birmingham policeman during the 40s and 50s. Supposedly, he participated in racially-motivated lynchings. I never met him, because by the time I was born, he'd been sent to prison for trying to murder his wife, my grandmother. He only lived for a few years after his release and was forbidden to come anywhere near us.

I have a close relative who confided in me that in her 50s, she began an illicit affair with her cousin, also in his 50s. Ewwe.
 

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As a kid there were a lot of things I had no clue about. I thought the little country neighborhood I grew up in was perfect, everybody got along and liked each other. It wasn't until I became an adult and long moved out of the neighborhood that at least four of the homes on our street had cheating spouses. I never knew that my dad (without knowing) helped one of the spouses lovers get his truck out of the ditch before the husband came home. Dad said he didn't realize what was going on until two days later suitcases were being thrown into the driveway by her soon to be ex husband. I never knew that the neighbor about eight houses up the street shot a .38 at another neighbor on the other end of the street with all of us kids playing in the yard. Dad had to go to court over that one. I never knew one of my uncles had cheated on my aunt for a big part of their marriage. They're still married to this day but I remember them coming out to the house on the weekends with my cousins. It was so much fun. We played, ran around and had a blast. Never did I ever think (as a kid) that my uncle would do anything like that. To be honest, at age 8 and 9 years old I didn't even know stuff like that happened.

But lord how becoming an adult removes the blinders you had as a child. Sometimes I wish I would have never found out stuff like that. :rolleyes:
That is exactly what has happened to our country!!
 

DzynKingRTR

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cousins that are not my cousins because their mother's were cheaters.

other cousins who are cousins don't know who their real fathers are.

and my family was very close to moving to Saudi Arabia for my dad to find a job.
 

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My great, great grandfather sired 53 kids that can be documented. He lived in Bankhead Forest between Double Springs and Moulton with one family and had other families in Mississippi and Tennessee. This past summer, I visited his grave for the first time, near Bankhead.
 

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A cousin of mine gave birth to a baby fathered by her father (incest). Several years later when he was dozing from a drunk spree, she placed a pillow over his head and blew his head off with his shotgun. The local law enforcement knew but did not investigate.
 

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It wasn't family but the most shocking thing I ever learned in life was finding out that an ex-girlfriend of mine was forced to have sex with her father from the ages of 11 to 17 (she was 21 when we met). I found this out from her nearly twenty years after we broke up.
 

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A cousin of mine gave birth to a baby fathered by her father (incest). Several years later when he was dozing from a drunk spree, she placed a pillow over his head and blew his head off with his shotgun. The local law enforcement knew but did not investigate.
Did this happen in Tallahasse?
 

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