On the first page of this thread there was brief specualtion that alcohol was involved (prior to any media reports) and the ol' "nothing good late at night" bit. Both were inappropriate, and even now that we know his seatbelt issues are likely to blame for his death, it's still inappropriate to wag the finger. Give it a day or two.
To be fair, this is what some people inevitably do with news like this. The people arguing that is highlights the dangers of not wearing a seatbelt are technically correct, and obviously the statistics and nature of the accident would lean strongly towards alcohol use. Whether or not the driver was drinking, it's a valid point that it is unsafe. Similarly, the driver may or may not have been texting... and it would be logical for people to point out how dangerous that is.
We all deal with shocking information in different ways. Some need to express their appreciation for a person they never knew or liked, others need to vent about the possible cause of the event. Some people on here probably knew him, and I feel very sorry for those who do, but no more than for people who knew the other deceased, or even those who know the survivors.
While I very much understand your point, people will say what they will say, and the "finger wagging" should be a reminder to the rest of us, not the departed and their families. While I wouldn't call the posts on here compassionate, they are reasonably appropriate and definitely predictable.
So unless you want to get into a meta-argument about the finger wagging in which you are now participating, it may be easier to just accept that everyone else who has their own opinion will let you know it and how yours is incorrect, just like you and I are doing... We're all hypocrites and insensitive at times.
