Re: Supreme Court Denie's AL Request for Stay Re: Gay Marriage
Yes, it is against the rule book I follow. I have no problem with someone saying that the were born this way with these tendencies. It is true. However, I believe everything we do in our life is a choice. I make equally bad choices all the time. I am not perfect either.
I agree to an extent, but there is a such thing as a societal norms. If there were not it wouldn't be a society at all. If we are to live together in the same society there has to be agreed upon acceptable behavior. If there is not agreement there is going to be friction, and it will matter to both of us.
Examples of those norms, most of which I disagree with in some way. I have no problem with them living that way, arguing their point and attempting to have a society that is formed around their beliefs as long as I am given the same latitude, and I am willing to give you the same latitude.
I will give you an example from something you termed ridiculous. I said earlier that one of my big problems is with dependency. It is specifically alcohol. One of the reasons I live where I live is the fact that I was trying to go to a place that I wouldn't have as many problems with it anymore. I moved to a dry county specifically because it was one. I didn't have to fight that fight every time I went into a gas station, or out for dinner with someone shoving a bottle of wine in my face. Unfortunately there was a movement not more than a few years later. There were repeated votes to allow alcohol sales (the fact that it was voted down multiple times didn't stop them). Now I have to deal with it every day again. I lost that fight, and have to deal with it because the societal norm changed. I am no longer as comfortable in that society.
This is what I see as happening, but the difference is that we are being forced to accept it as right, and in fact perform the ceremonies.
first and foremost I am truly sorry for your issues with dependency. I have issues with eating too many of the wrong types of food, but I don't want to ban them for others. For me they cause real health issues. Others can live on fried chicken, biscuits and beer, wish I could.
Outside of that the whole societal norms issue is garbage.
Societal norms in this country we've correctly (IMO of course) done away with
- owning humans
- breeding our owned humans to suit our needs
- acceptability of whipping and other torture of our owned humans
- the right to buy and sell humans
- White men as the only people with any rights
- white men as the only who can own property
- Unacceptability of Divorce (still an issue for many in 2015 but there are very few of us that would argue today that a woman must stay in an abusive relationship as happened in the past to a much greater extent)
- Beating your Children, not spanking beating, see Adrian Peterson as an example of what was and now thankfully isn't a societal norm
- Beating your Spouse (the honeymooners joked about as a norm in the early days of TV that would be shocking today)
I could go on and on but you get the point. Oh and by the way lots of Christians fought on both sides of many of the issues above and used scriptures to defend all of them (and fight against them, many Christians were abolitionists too)
lastly, I am in agreement with you on Preforming the ceremonies, but
only for religious institutions if the church or a clergy member doesn't want to perform gay marriages I am completely fine with that. But, if a Government official, like a judge or justice of the peace performs marriages as a part of his/her job then they should be required to for any two consenting adults that ask