As an outsider who has become more and more an Alabama fan every year for a while now I can say that the Auburn game is painful to watch in our house. It is actually harder for me to watch than the OSU/UM game. Why? Because my wife's family simply can't stomach the possibility of a loss to Auburn. Even when Alabama is clearly better than Auburn (like last year), the game is hard to watch. Too much on the line for Alabama - and Auburn always seems to be playing with house money (even if they lose, they win).
I don't say this to suggest that the rivalry be stopped - not my business. But I don't know how you guys live in that environment year round.
You cannot even imagine what it was like from November 27, 2002 until November 29, 2008, when we lost SIX in a row to those Tractor Pullers. Thing is, there's a big difference.
When Auburn beats us, they get to crow both locally and nationally about how "we beat Alabama!"
When we beat them.....ah, they're just one of many wins we got that year to us. Them beating us in 2013.... to many of them I'll GUARANTEE you it meant more that they stopped us from the first ever three-peat than that they were in line for a shot to win it themselves. (I seriously doubt the active players feel this way, but the former players and especially the fan base as a whole does - yes, there ARE exceptions to this).
If I could have had just one wish in 2013.......UGA doesn't screw up and give Ricardo Louis the most insane touchdown you'll ever see. They beat us the next week with the Kick Six, we go kill Missouri and then we maul Florida State after the Buckeyes lose.
They get what they want - and we get to point out, "So what? We've done something nobody ever did before." (I realize it's painful for our fans to even talk about that game very much but.......setting aside the horrific ending from our vantage point, it was one helluva football game, and I don't know that I will ever see anything like it ever again. I had friends send me condolences months later while saying, "But my Gawd, what a game that was!" These were not Auburn or Alabama fans just folks who watched the game.
Rodney Orr of Tider Insider summarized the differences between the schools. Auburn beating Alabama gets them national respect; us beating Auburn does NOT get us anything at all nationally. (A longer quotation appears in Maisel's "War In Dixie," the horrible tale of the 2000 season).
It's probably similar to - back when they played - Colorado and Nebraska, except for the fact they don't live in the same state. Only you have to multiply it by about 100. Colorado beat Nebraska multiple times and became a big deal; when Nebraska beat Colorado, it didn't even matter all that much. Except for the 1994-95-96 time frame when both schools were good and CU had beaten Nebraska several times recently.......it never meant anything at all to Nebraska to beat Colorado.
I'm trying to think of a time when it really meant anything beyond "at least we don't have to listen to them this year" to us. I think 1984 was probably the ONE time that UA fans took A LOT of comfort in that win and that had more to do with unique circumstances than anything else. It was our first losing season since prior to CPB arriving, and Auburn began the year at number one and had a Heisman Trophy candidate in Bo Jackson. They were going for three in a row against us and there's NO DOUBT that 1984 Auburn team was better than our 1984 team. None whatsoever. But some guys like Paul Ott Carruth and Mike Shula (along with Rory Turner, Curt Jarvis, and a guy who intercepted a pass named David Valletto) put it all together one day and won the Iron Bowl.
Otherwise? It really doesn't mean all that much. I guess if we had won in 2010, we'd have relished the mockery of 'you came this close and we took it from you!' but that would only have lasted the five months until the tornadoes hit.