I just don't buy it. How could he go out, open the hot car up and not notice his toddler was inside the oven. The only thing I can figure, other than murder, was that he was in an "altered state of consciousness..."Yes, they said he ate breakfast with the child. Then drove half a mile to work and went in, the child was left in the car. He went back out at lunch to put something in the car. Went back into work and then left work after 4pm. It was then he pulled into a parking lot and "discovered" what happened.
here is a link to the details.
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/25/justice/georgia-toddler-death/index.html?hpt=hp_t1
I originally thought that this was a ruse to cover up some other abuse. Now, I wish it had have been.
It's looking more and more like this sick bastard planned it out and left his own flesh and blood to die in excruciating fashion. This makes me ill.
I just don't buy it. How could he go out, open the hot car up and not notice his toddler was inside the oven. The only thing I can figure, other than murder, was that he was in an "altered state of consciousness..."
No, they're irrelevant - i'm simply sharing an opinion.
If you want an argument, you'll have to look elsewhere. Sorry to disappoint.
Hey, it's an opinion. And while you're throwing around silly phrases like 'an opinion so baseless in reality' I'd suggest many, many people would appreciate laws which heavily prosecute careless gun owners who leave loaded firearms where toddlers can reach them.Fair enough, and I'm not looking for argument, but I'm confused by the fact that one might be so belligerent in defending an opinion so baseless in reality.
Well, I was not a helicopter parent, by any means. However, my awareness of where my kids were (and, later, where they were supposed to be), makes it hard for me even to imagine. When my kids were that age, they were my world! Everything, and I mean that, was secondary. I guess that's what makes it so hard to believe that kids could have become so secondary that a distraction at a job could make one forget one's kid. That's what makes this so hard to swallow, that the world could have changed that much in a few decades...Obviously this is looking more and more like something other than a tragic accident, but two thoughts:
1. The accused is a friend of a friend to me and my wife - drugs would be a very real shock (as would murder, of course). Straight-laced Christian guy by all accounts.
2. Can't speak for the Hyundai Tuscon he drove, but I've got a Buick Rendezvous with somewhat tinted windows. Let's say my wife and kids got into the car for church before me, and I locked up the house and headed to the driveway. If I went straight to the driver side door and got in, I would never see my youngest son in the seat behind me, especially - and this is critical - with him being in a rear-facing carseat. I would see his car seat, but I wouldn't see him. He's now at the age where we usually leave the seat in the car, so it wouldn't look any different whether he was in the seat or not.
Now with that said, I'm less and less inclined to believe that this was an accident, though with my (very loose) connections to the Tuscaloosa world this guy and wife had inhabited, I had hoped this was simply a tragic accident. It looks that was not the case and if so, I hope justice is carried out.
My wife did read that as rear-facing carseats became standardized, these sort of awful accidents have become more common.
Just go sit in a restaurant and watch a family of four sit at a table with their phones out not talking to each other.Well, I was not a helicopter parent, by any means. However, my awareness of where my kids were (and, later, where they were supposed to be), makes it hard for me even to imagine. When my kids were that age, they were my world! Everything, and I mean that, was secondary. I guess that's what makes it so hard to believe that kids could have become so secondary that a distraction at a job could make one forget one's kid. That's what makes this so hard to swallow, that the world could have changed that much in a few decades...
I'm with you. I'm still hyper-aware of where my kids are and what they are doing and the youngest is barely into the double digits in age. There was one incident when he was quite small when he actually wondered off when he awoke from a nap as my wife was relieving herself. Close call, but the day (and my son) was saved by an alert neighbor who kept him out of the pool. He went missing another time and was found finally asleep in his toybox by a very kind policeman. I had actually looked there and saw the cover, but the sight was not terribly unusual so I went to check the pool and then the creek. Came pretty close to punching out a neighbor over his fat mouth (asking my wife how could she let it happen and what kind of mother was she), but he shut it when I told him what I'd do if he didn't and the cop he implored for help just told him he'd be wise to do as I said. Same guy was arrested, ironically enough, for a domestic charge some time afterward. His S.O.'s kid later on thought he could fly and jumped off a 2-story roof. I found him when I awoke at 3:30AM to relieve myself. Almost dismissed him as a drunk college kid but decided I had to go check on him either way. Some of his broken bones were obvious, but he was actually awake. He'd have likely died - from his collapsed lung or skull fracture with subdural hematoma - or come close if I hadn't had that late Dr. Pepper that night. Strange how things happen sometimes.Well, I was not a helicopter parent, by any means. However, my awareness of where my kids were (and, later, where they were supposed to be), makes it hard for me even to imagine. When my kids were that age, they were my world! Everything, and I mean that, was secondary. I guess that's what makes it so hard to believe that kids could have become so secondary that a distraction at a job could make one forget one's kid. That's what makes this so hard to swallow, that the world could have changed that much in a few decades...
posting on tide fansJust go sit in a restaurant and watch a family of four sit at a table with their phones out not talking to each other.
That may or may not be germane in cases like this.Just go sit in a restaurant and watch a family of four sit at a table with their phones out not talking to each other.
Oh, I agree entirely on that score. Just noting that the layout the car, combined with the style of carseat (which I believe is mandatory), has a logisitical effect. I've defended - if that's the word - parents on the grounds that sometimes, as BiB said above, our brains fail us, but yeah...I do think a lot has changed.Well, I was not a helicopter parent, by any means. However, my awareness of where my kids were (and, later, where they were supposed to be), makes it hard for me even to imagine. When my kids were that age, they were my world! Everything, and I mean that, was secondary. I guess that's what makes it so hard to believe that kids could have become so secondary that a distraction at a job could make one forget one's kid. That's what makes this so hard to swallow, that the world could have changed that much in a few decades...
You'd be surprised at how many children become, at least in the eyes of the parents, more of a distraction and inconvenience from their own everyday lives than living, breathing humans for whom they are responsible. Except in case of divorce or separation of course. Then the children become weapons to be used against the other spouse.Well, I was not a helicopter parent, by any means. However, my awareness of where my kids were (and, later, where they were supposed to be), makes it hard for me even to imagine. When my kids were that age, they were my world! Everything, and I mean that, was secondary. I guess that's what makes it so hard to believe that kids could have become so secondary that a distraction at a job could make one forget one's kid. That's what makes this so hard to swallow, that the world could have changed that much in a few decades...
during working hours or after the kids and wife have gone to bed.posting on tide fans
My point was simply that people have become disconnected from every day interaction with "advances" in technology. I wish we didn't have cell phones, instagram, twitter, facebook, etc. We're raising a new generation of socially awkward people because they don't know how to interact with each other on a personal level.That may or may not be germane in cases like this.
ThisYou'd be surprised at how many children become, at least in the eyes of the parents, more of a distraction and inconvenience from their own everyday lives than living, breathing humans for whom they are responsible. Except in case of divorce or separation of course. Then the children become weapons to be used against the other spouse.
I sometimes wonder why some people decide to become parents. If children are such an inconvenience, maybe they should just get a dog.
We should encourage or enforce certain people not to breed.This
This is why I always support people who decide not to have children. Too many people feel like they should or they have to or their parents want grand kids. Forget that kids are too hard. Do what makes sense for you an no one else. I've heard people say not having kids is selfish, no having kids and ignoring them is selfish. Knowing that you don't want them and not doing it is a great thing. As a society we should all support people who opt chose not to breed.
Seeing how incompetent many dog owners are I'd recommend these people avoid being responsible for any other life form.You'd be surprised at how many children become, at least in the eyes of the parents, more of a distraction and inconvenience from their own everyday lives than living, breathing humans for whom they are responsible. Except in case of divorce or separation of course. Then the children become weapons to be used against the other spouse.
I sometimes wonder why some people decide to become parents. If children are such an inconvenience, maybe they should just get a dog.
When my wife worked in labor and delivery she had hundreds of patients who had no business being parents. But they were - many times over. I remember her telling me about this 25-year-old who was delivering her 13th child ..... on the taxpayers' dime, of course. It takes a lot of responsible, productive people to "pay their fare share" to be able to subsidize the parasites.This
This is why I always support people who decide not to have children. Too many people feel like they should or they have to or their parents want grand kids. Forget that kids are too hard. Do what makes sense for you an no one else. I've heard people say not having kids is selfish, no having kids and ignoring them is selfish. Knowing that you don't want them and not doing it is a great thing. As a society we should all support people who opt chose not to breed.
If you are on welfare you should have temporary birth control until you can support yourself and family with a job and by temporary, I mean an implant.When my wife worked in labor and delivery she had hundreds of patients who had no business being parents. But they were - many times over. I remember her telling me about this 25-year-old who was delivering her 13th child ..... on the taxpayers' dime, of course. It takes a lot of responsible, productive people to "pay their fare share" to be able to subsidize the parasites.