I'm not sure if comedian Dick Gregory was the first to say it or not, but I've found the following to be historically true: In the south, white folks don't care how close black folks get as long as they don't get too big in society. Up north, white folks don't care how big black folks get as long as they don't get too close.Second, she seems to be under the impression that because you are in the South, it is okay to use racial slurs. I would argue just the opposite. Southerns, white and black, have to interact with each other and learn how to make things work. I would bet New Jerseyans do not have to do that, unless they live in NY or Phillie metro.
I hold out hope racism of all shape and forms disappears in my lifetime.......but it ain't looking good.