It's what I do for a living - shepherding people through the process...Going thru the estate thing as executor for my Dad's estate right now.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
It's what I do for a living - shepherding people through the process...Going thru the estate thing as executor for my Dad's estate right now.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
You probably know this drill, too. My ex gave two craps about investing, saving for retirement. Spent like a drunken sailor, and, when she would get a decent-paying job, would quit after 2-3 months because she had to actually be held accountable for something.
But she sure as heck was interested in my 401k, IRA, and even my pension when it came time to divvy up the assets. If she had contributed her fair share to the retirement, I wouldn't have despised this so much. I was putting 20-25% of my salary into retirement, but she put in virtually nothing.
Luckily, I was able to negotiate a cash settlement in lieu of her touching my pension. And I've been trying to put hand-over-fist $$$ into my retirement since the divorce, and i think I've recovered much of what I lost 4 years ago.
And it really chapped her behind when she learned she had zilch rights to my inheritance from my Dad. And I also have a 2nd pension (small) from a company I worked for a few decades ago.....that I just didn't mention during the divorce.
I can't tell you how many times I've tried to explain to people who want to constantly blame anyone but themselves for their recurring issues that "at some point, you become the only common denominator."...But if certain breakdowns (particularly the same ones) keep occurring in relationships, then at some point you have to be willing to look at yourself and see what you're doing wrong...
I have a brother who retired 18 mos ago. Retired Ear Nose and Throat specialist. He was used to working 12-16 hours a day. Now, all he does all day is play with his bees and now he's a gamer. All the time in the world on his hands. Guess who is the hardest to keep on point to sign papers? I may have to fly to Portland just to hold his feet to the fire. Annoying because I don't need this 2nd job. lolIt's what I do for a living - shepherding people through the process...
The worst thing about my ex's is the fact that, against my advice, she placed a number of small trusts in her will for grandchildren (she was a non-practicing lawyer). Each trust has at least one account. The paperwork is drowning. Her will seems to presume that I will live forever, or until these kids reach 50, which is ridiculous...I have a brother who retired 18 mos ago. Retired Ear Nose and Throat specialist. He was used to working 12-16 hours a day. Now, all he does all day is play with his bees and now he's a gamer. All the time in the world on his hands. Guess who is the hardest to keep on point to sign papers? I may have to fly to Portland just to hold his feet to the fire. Annoying because I don't need this 2nd job. lol
A Durham County judge awarded the owner of a BMX bike stunt show company more than $8.8 million from the man he said seduced his wife and ruined his marriage.
Superior Court Judge Orlando Hudson awarded Keith King more than $2.2 million in compensatory damages and three times that in punitive damages from Francisco Huizar III of San Antonio, Texas.
Huizar’s attorney said they will appeal.
In the civil complaint filed in April 2017, King accused Huizar of criminal conversation, alienation of affection, intentional infliction of emotional distress, negligent infliction of emotional distress and assault and battery.
Huizar’s attorney, Cheri Patrick, said Huizar was not responsible for a marriage that was damaged before her client met Danielle King.
Keith King, who is 15 years older than his wife, controlled her access to money, manipulated her low self-esteem, brought porn into the relationship, looked through her phone every other week, put her to work without pay, and continued to schedule shows after she said it was too much work and she needed help with her daughter, Patrick said. He tracked her movements and insisted she keep her hair blond, and wear bikinis and high heels, Patrick said.
“This marriage needed one more blow before it was over,” Patrick said.
In testimony, Danielle King said she pursued Huizar and that the marriage had been unhappy from the first year.
With Huizar’s help, Danielle King rented an apartment in January 2017, and Huizar was on the lease.
Danielle King told her husband that her parents had helped with the apartment, Foil said.
Danielle King didn’t tell her husband her apartment number, but did share the name of the complex and the building number, Foil said.
When Danielle King told her husband that she was having a breaker issue at the apartment on Jan. 20, 2017, he went to her apartment, knocked on the door, and Huizar answered, Foil said.
At that point Keith King realized that his wife had continued to have an affair over the past 16 months, his attorney said. Patrick said he knew of the affair months before.
Foil claimed King and Huizar were setting Keith King up, waiting to record the scene with their cellphones to support domestic violence allegations. When Keith King reacted to finding Huizar there, Huizar put him in a choke hold, court documents indicate.
In court documents, Huizar’s attorney contends that Keith King showed up uninvited, refused to leave “and loomed over Danielle King, causing her to cower in fear.”
Huizar removed him from the apartment to “prevent great bodily harm,” to Danielle King, court documents state.
Wow! I thought alienation of affections was a dead letter. Guess not...He slept with a married woman. Now a judge says, pay the jilted husband $8.8 million
July 26, 2018 06:53 PM
Durham
Danielle King sitting in a Durham County courtroom on Thursday, July 26, 2018, during a civil trial in which a person she had a relationship with while she was married, Francisco Huizar, was ordered to pay more than $8.8 million.
Interesting comments at the bottom of the article.....
It is extremely trying working in an office with a bunch of women. When they are together they chatter about incredibly inane or inappropriate topics (that would send a man quickly to HR for a write up). Then when they are not together they bad mouth each other like scorned fifth graders. Sigh.Whether society likes to admit it or not, in general, most women operate from an emotional standpoint. My wife tends to disagree with me on this and that's fine (if she wants to be wrong ). But I tell her all the time, there's a reason the same group of men can hang out and be friends for years and more times than not a group of women cannot. The PC police can now bring out their bag of stones. LOL!
Proverbs 21:19
King James Bible
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman
Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is his father's ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.
Proverbs 21:9
Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
8 million dollars? For sex with a woman? Umm, not that I condone such a thing, but I am pretty sure a prime escort would be considerably cheaper.He slept with a married woman. Now a judge says, pay the jilted husband $8.8 million
July 26, 2018 06:53 PM
Durham
Danielle King sitting in a Durham County courtroom on Thursday, July 26, 2018, during a civil trial in which a person she had a relationship with while she was married, Francisco Huizar, was ordered to pay more than $8.8 million.
Interesting comments at the bottom of the article.....
Bazza, if you find a woman who exhibits all 11 of these signs ask can you pet her unicorn that she's riding. LOL!I 100% endorse these qualities..........and also feel it goes both ways. In theory, she should want these same qualities in her man.
Yes....there are women like this - they do exist.
You just have to know what to look for and refuse to lower your standards.
Hey Buzz.....if she pets my unicorn...I'm more than willing to pet hers! DT_ser:Bazza, if you find a woman who exhibits all 11 of these signs ask can you pet her unicorn that she's riding. LOL!