i was also a nerd/dork before that became co-opted
Yeah, my daughter is like that. She goes to a school that purposely flips the traditional school social structure upside down. Nerd, "different", is considered cool. The few jocks who are smart enough to get into the school are at the bottom of the "cool" meter and many times are made fun of (how ironic). I was the "jock" during my school days. Definitely not smart or "nerdy". My daughter tells me "Daddy, if you were going to my school when you were my age you wouldn't be cool because you're a 'jock'." I laugh and tell her "Hell, I wasn't even cool at a school where I was supposed to be cool. So yeah, I'm sure I wouldn't be cool at yours either."
However, I do remind her that most of the kids at her school (including her) went to that school because they didn't like being made fun of or being looked at as "different", in the bad, unacceptable sense. So, now that you are the majority so to speak, it would be very hypocritical of you to treat someone else that same way. She looked at me like a calf looking at a new gate. Then rolled her eyes, and stormed upstairs in a way only a 14 year old middle school girl can. LOL!