Is it victim blaming to look at all the events in an incident of police brutality and wonder what could have been done differently that would have resulted in a different outcome?
Get this straight in your head forever. When white people act out with the police, they are not beaten and/or shot. When black people act out with the police, they are beaten and/or shot. It happens not because the black people act differently - it happens because the police behave differently toward young black men than they do any other group of people on the planet. This is not about victim behavior. To suggest otherwise with so much data proving the point borders on bigotry. It is like blaming a woman in a short skirt for her rape.
The second, and more important point. If you are disrespectful to a police officer, that police officer still has a responsibility to treat you with professionalism.
If you work at Chick-fil-A and a customer treats you with disrespect, and you respond in kind, you will be fired. You might get a second chance, but probably not. Why? Because Chick-fil-A has a very high standard of behavior that they expect from their employees.
The police are somehow given a pass for responding like jerks if they feel insulted or disrespected by a civilian. We are told that "they have all the power, so best to keep your head down and kiss their asses". Why? Because we all know, and have known for centuries, that police officers are going to do whatever they want to do, so you had better not give them a reason to do it to you.
That is what has to change. Police behavior. Period.