I saw that the recent thread has moved into sexual assault allegations and as always, right vs left. Instead, while removing party affiliations and wealth from the equation (yes, I believe ((and can provide links)) wealthy break laws and even when caught have a lesser chance is facing similar penalties as the rest of us), can we talk about sexual assault allegations.
You can't have it both ways and I would say, based off the United States judicial system, one of these two beliefs is actually contrary to what we espouse.
1) believe women/ believe all women
2) innocent until proven guilty.
I'll share a personal story that, while it didn't change my mind about any of this, did reinforce it. I was accused of rape once. The facts were;
Eighteen years old
barracks party
Made out with a girl (1st base equivalency)
Left the party because I was the new guy and those senior to me wanted me to relief their buddy on duty so he could come party (which I did).
The next day the girl claims I raped her. She goes on to explain the whole thing, how everyone (8 of them) went to waffle house just after midnight (12:44am), came back and then it happened in her room. She then called her ex-boyfriend who she'd recently broken up with at 3:27 to tell him what had happened. That morning she made the complaint to the chaplain then military police.
Being on staff duty that night was the best thing that ever happened to me, because from 11:30pm until 3:30am I had been on security camera, with my First Sergeant, picking up a Staff Sergeant from the jail in Clarksville, TN for DUI. Maybe I was the last thing she really remembered before getting really drunk. Maybe (and we kinda do) all look alike when we first join the service.
My point is, my life and career were almost destroyed before they had even began because of this. As soon as the initial charges came I was lucky because these facts were known regarding my location. It couldn't meet the requirements for Courts Martial.
I believe women get raped. I believe that whoever did it should get to enjoy living in fear of the same in prison. But I also know mistakes are made, and that's why a case has to be prosecuted. He said she said is real, and while it may sound unreasonable, apply the same logic to nearly any other argument based situation. It didn't take on the same horrendous overtones did it? I think women, especially young women during sex education) should be educated in exactly what they should do in the event that they have been raped. I know much of this will come off without empathy, it has to. Because facts and data is how you win a case like this. I've worked on about 14-20 rape cases (paralegal for prosecution in JAG). I saw the same thing over and over; took a shower, waited a week (up to 3 months) to make the complaint, "I was drunk, I think..." or did other things that reduced the likelihood of a conviction, at least in the eyes of a jury.
I understand it's a traumatic experience, but if the person wants justice, they need to do what needs to be done in a timely manner. I'm sure there are even websites now (that didn't exist then) that give these step by step instructions.
And the girl from the story......whoever it was got away. She was deadest that it was me, and unwilling to budge that it could be anyone else. Even after they showed her pictures of me during the entire timeframe at the police station. It's just how her brain processed the situation.
You can't have it both ways and I would say, based off the United States judicial system, one of these two beliefs is actually contrary to what we espouse.
1) believe women/ believe all women
2) innocent until proven guilty.
I'll share a personal story that, while it didn't change my mind about any of this, did reinforce it. I was accused of rape once. The facts were;
Eighteen years old
barracks party
Made out with a girl (1st base equivalency)
Left the party because I was the new guy and those senior to me wanted me to relief their buddy on duty so he could come party (which I did).
The next day the girl claims I raped her. She goes on to explain the whole thing, how everyone (8 of them) went to waffle house just after midnight (12:44am), came back and then it happened in her room. She then called her ex-boyfriend who she'd recently broken up with at 3:27 to tell him what had happened. That morning she made the complaint to the chaplain then military police.
Being on staff duty that night was the best thing that ever happened to me, because from 11:30pm until 3:30am I had been on security camera, with my First Sergeant, picking up a Staff Sergeant from the jail in Clarksville, TN for DUI. Maybe I was the last thing she really remembered before getting really drunk. Maybe (and we kinda do) all look alike when we first join the service.
My point is, my life and career were almost destroyed before they had even began because of this. As soon as the initial charges came I was lucky because these facts were known regarding my location. It couldn't meet the requirements for Courts Martial.
I believe women get raped. I believe that whoever did it should get to enjoy living in fear of the same in prison. But I also know mistakes are made, and that's why a case has to be prosecuted. He said she said is real, and while it may sound unreasonable, apply the same logic to nearly any other argument based situation. It didn't take on the same horrendous overtones did it? I think women, especially young women during sex education) should be educated in exactly what they should do in the event that they have been raped. I know much of this will come off without empathy, it has to. Because facts and data is how you win a case like this. I've worked on about 14-20 rape cases (paralegal for prosecution in JAG). I saw the same thing over and over; took a shower, waited a week (up to 3 months) to make the complaint, "I was drunk, I think..." or did other things that reduced the likelihood of a conviction, at least in the eyes of a jury.
I understand it's a traumatic experience, but if the person wants justice, they need to do what needs to be done in a timely manner. I'm sure there are even websites now (that didn't exist then) that give these step by step instructions.
And the girl from the story......whoever it was got away. She was deadest that it was me, and unwilling to budge that it could be anyone else. Even after they showed her pictures of me during the entire timeframe at the police station. It's just how her brain processed the situation.