File under: Kierkegaardian despair
I can't help but wonder if the way it's playing out might actually be the best chance for Andre Smith to be a better player.
If the issues raised recently are as speculated, his being drafted 1st overall would do nothing to change them. If anything, the nonchalance would be reinforced.
Some here ought to understand that it is not unusual for gifted or talented kids to develop a certain nonchalance not necessarily because they are lazy, but as protection. The message that can get sent is that any successes are due to your gifts, which were handed to you, while any failures are a mark of personal inadequacy. Attempts to "tough love" these kids into raising it a level are destined to fail, because what they need is not motivation but some basic emotional reassurance that everyone will not turn on them if it turns out that they don't meet every (unrealistic) expectation that everyone (and they themselves, often) has of them. Ultimately, it's about a secure sense of identity. The message they get from the "tough love" is that they can be abandoned, when what they need is to know that there are people they can trust to be there no matter what happens.
People wonder why kids like this won't invest more, and they will even resent them, thinking that if they had those gifts they would work so much harder. It's a distorted picture, but it isn't hard for kids in this situation to feel like they are in a lose-lose situation, in which whatever they do threatens to isolate them.
Obviously, I've got to wonder if Andre Smith doesn't have some of this going on. In which case, being drafted very high and viewed as the savior of a lousy team is probably the worst thing that could happen to him. I would dare say that he would be destined to disappoint in that case.
On the other case, a slide has some potential to allow Andre to see some of all this for what it is. Having not met expectations, he may finally have to decide to become what he wants, rather than just keep doing whatever the next thing laid before him is. If he decides he loves being an nfl LT, he'll get paid, because the talent is such that he can be. And if he decides he wants to be something else, then I hope he has the guts to do it and love doing it.
Then again, mid-round nfl money is still more than most ever see, so it's entirely possible that he slugs along in mediocrity for 3 or 5 or 7 years, still feels like he gets to take care of people, and doesn't have to risk anything.
There's no timeline for epiphany. One day you just wake up and see things differently. Often it's something you knew for a long time. At the end of the day it's something he has to get ahold of himself and no one can do it for him.
I don't see a whole lot of people showing a lot of concern for Andre Smith the person, and I'm guessing that his whole thing right now is that he needs to somehow know that Andre Smith the person is going to be ok whether or not he's a football player. Although it might in some ways seem counterintuitive, his best chance at being a great and happy football player might be to get some more people around him who don't care if he's a football player.
Unfortunately, I don't get the sense that there are a lot of people around him who are putting him in a position to succeed.
Re: the first line
In Sickness Unto Death Soren Kierkegaard talks about something that has since been called "Kierkegaardian dispair." It's an existential crisis in which on realizes that there are any number of potential things one could become, but to choose any one means sacrificing others. The catch is that realizing any potential requires this leap of faith. But particularly for those who've had the limitlessness of their potential reinforced to the point where this limitlessness itself comes to be identified as part of their identity, it can be wrenching to get past this.