Memorial Day

Tidewater

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Lots of people have deceased family members who served in the military or as first responders. Many wish to honor their service by placing a small US flag on their departed loved one's grave. Then they abandon that flag. For months. I live near a cemetery and i find tattered, dirty, unserviceable flags on graves all the time.
U.S. Code says the flag should be lowered at sunset or lit overnight. This is not possible in a cemetery. If you take a flag to your departed family member's grave, please go back before sunset and retrieve it. Leaving it after sunset dishonors the flag. Dishonoring the flag is a poor way to honor the service of departed family members.
Bunting is an acceptable alternative and does not need to be retrieved at sunset.
 

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I try to kindly/gently remind (as needed) unaware folks that Memorial Day is specifically to honor those who sacrificed their very life in service of the USA.

Re displaying the flag on graves for Memorial Day, I think you'll be fine to remove them the next day (first thing). That is what Arlington National Cemetary does, and is also the practice of the American Legion. Certainly nothing wrong, though, if you feel it more proper to remove it by sunset.
 
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Bazza

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Less than HALF of Americans know the true meaning behind Memorial Day

Only 43 percent of 2,000 Americans surveyed were aware that the holiday honors military members who died while serving in the US Armed Forces, according to research revealed on Thursday.

The poll, conducted on behalf of University of Phoenix, found that 28 percent of respondents confused Memorial Day with Veterans Day - a holiday honoring all military veterans for their service.
It's a common mistake: 36 percent of people admitted to not knowing the difference between Memorial Day and Veterans Day.

But to others, the revelation of Americans not knowing the holiday's true meaning came as a surprise.

Less than half, or 46 percent, of respondents knew Memorial Day is celebrated on the last Monday in May.
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I try to kindly/gently remind (as needed) unaware folks that Memorial Day is specifically to honor those who sacrificed their very life in service of the USA.

Re displaying the flag on graves for Memorial Day, I think you'll be fine to remove them the next day (first thing). That is what Arlington National Cemetary does, and is also the practice of the American Legion. Certainly nothing wrong, though, if you feel it more proper to remove it by sunset.
Right on cue, the local VFW and American Legion placed flags on the US veterans' graves on Thursday and left them since Thursday. Well-intentioned, but ...
 
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One of the most powerful songs I have were heard on this theme is June Tabor singing "No Man's Land"


Well, how do you do, Private William McBride?
Do you mind if I sit down here by your graveside?
And rest for awhile in the warm summer sun
I've been walking all day, and I'm nearly done
And I see by your gravestone you were only nineteen
When you joined the glorious fallen in 1916
Well, I hope you died quick and I hope you died clean
Or, Willam McBride, was it slow and obscene?

Chorus:
Did they beat the drum slowly?
Did they sound the pipe lowly?
Did the rifles fire o'er you as they lowered you down?
Did the bugles sing "The Last Post" in chorus?
Did the pipes play "The Flowers of the Forest"?

And did you leave a wife or a sweetheart behind?
In some loyal heart is your memory enshrined?
And though you died back in 1916
To that faithful heart are you always nineteen?
Or are you just a stranger without even a name
Forever enclosed behind some glass pane
In an old photograph, torn and tattered and stained
And fading to yellow in a brown leather frame?

Well, the sun it shines down on these green fields of France
The warm wind blows gently and the red poppies dance
The trenches have vanished now under the plow
No gas and no barbed wire, no guns firing now
But here in this graveyard it's still No Man's Land
And the countless white crosses in mute witness stand
To man's blind indifference to his fellow man
And a whole generation who were butchered and damned

And I can't help but wonder now, Willie McBride
Do all those who lie here know why they died?
Did you really believe them when they told you 'The Cause?'
Did you really believe that this war would end wars?
Well the suffering, the sorrow, the glory, the shame
The killing, the dying, it was all done in vain
For Willie McBride, it all happened again
And again, and again, and again, and again
 

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I just finished a book titled "The Wehrmacht's Last Stand." Between the Germans, Russians and allies, it's hard to wrap one's mind around millions of combat deaths...
 
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PFC James F. Perkins (my wife's uncle) was killed on February 24, 1945, while serving with the 4th Marine Division on Iwo Jima. He was 18 years old. He was born and is buried in Tuscaloosa, AL.

Rest in peace.

“It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived.”
-George S. Patton

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Thank you, Tidewater for your post of that song last Memorial Day. I obviously missed seeing it last year, but wanted to express my appreciation for posting such a poignant and moving song for those in all wars who died so young.
 

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