And this is where a lot of opinions on how people felt it "should" have been handled are coming out. Granted, there isn't a right or wrong answer, just preferences and nothing more than a "If I were the HC I would have done this..." type of scenario, which is one of the purposes of online message boards, is to give opinions and then discuss.
Personally, if I'm Deboer and if Grubb "was not enthusiastic" about making the move then he wouldn't have been a part of my plan, period. Granted, that's just me and once again, there isn't a right or wrong answer. But no way I'm bringing a guy on that I know his heart isn't in it from the get-go ad no way he's getting anywhere near a player or parent I'm recruiting. . From my experience, regardless of the situation, just isn't good practice and doesn't end well for anyone.