Being Gay

Bob, We have been through this over and over but this is the first time I believe I have seen you compare the civil rights movement with the gay rights movement.

What has obviously escaped you is that during the civil rights movement people were being discriminated against because of their skin color as opposed to their sexual preference.

As for the Constitution, men and women are given equal protection within our laws. Any gay man alive can wed a woman and rear a family and they would be offered the same equal protection and the same rights under which all men/women live. To say that we should expand our marraige laws to accomodate one's sexual preference would be ludicrous. We would open doors to rapist, child molesters, biggamist and eventually even those practicing beastiality (wouldn't Darwin love that?). We would have Catholic Priest trying to claim back pay for some alter boy(s) and sure enough, I would gaurantee you that some moron would try to marry his Golden Retriever to cover his vet bills. What? This isn't legal?? Try telling that to those law abiding citizens over in San Francisco who are about to get a major jolt in their welfare system. Judges are "changing" laws and making new ones everyday. And think about what would happen to the welfare programs in states like Utah. Men out their would like to marry multiple women.

I know you will argue that these other sexual perversions are not equal to one man wanting to insert himself into another man's backside but I cant see how it can be different. It is all sexual preference. It is all perverted lust. Legal or not legal? What does it matter when you have activitist Judges like the ones in Massachusetts or law breaking city officials like those in San Fran.

I truly understand your personal experience and I really do not care what goes on in another person's bedroom but I do start caring when these people start flaunting their immoral, deviant sexual lifestyles out in public.

Sure, me and you may have different definitions of morality but how would you like to take your grandchildren to a city park where they might witness a man romantically rolling around on the ground and kissing on his Lab dog or to see a man and his five wives having a picnic? "Grandpa, why is Priest Dimwit and that alter boy holding hands?"

You may think this extreme but considering your beginning viewpoint, I would think not.

Negroes had a legitimate problem. They did not choose their own skin color, it was inherited. Their problem concern them being able to marry other blacks. Their problem was the fact that they were black. They were not able to switch back and forth between being white and being black. There were no bi-negroes. They were stuck on black in a society that considered a black person to be less of a human being that a white person. They were sent to the back of the bus and forbidden from using the white's water fountains or restuarants. They were kept out of the better schools and the better paying jobs. Is this the way that you actually believe Gay people are treated? There is no comparison.

The gay man has the same equal rights and protections as the normal man and the gay woman has the same equal rights and protections as the normal woman. The whole problem comes about when that gay man wants separate rights to be applied to him because of his abnormal, immoral sexual lifestyle. I am sure many other groups would like their own special rights so that they could freely live out their sexual lust also.

Since when is marraige about sexual lust?

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<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by CrimsonNan:
Belle - you need to read my thread "Same Sex Marriage and Civil Unions". They have all the privileges that we have. They have the right to inherit, etc. But marriage is between a man and a woman not two men or two women. And BTW, I don't feel guilty about anything. </font>


We just talked about in class on Friday this gay man Left in his will $700,000 for his partner, and $25,000 to his estranged mother who didnt believe in his lifestyle. The lover that passed lived in Georgia, the other in Alabama. The mother challenged the case on the grounds that the lover had no right to inherit because Georgia Law prevents inheritance between those who commit "blasphemous acts" or some other such Drivel. Guess what? The mother won the money...The same mother who hadnt spoken to her son in years and didnt see him till the day he died, only locked up the house that they had possessions together in...

Is that right? Is that Fair? Its nobodys damn business who that man decided to leave his money to. Thats not right and its not okay to be treated like a second class citizen.

Are gay people hurting anybody? They are just people who want to live their lives with each other...How is that in anyway ruining any of your marriages with your wives? Unless...
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Belle:

Your argument doesn't hold water. Estates often have claims against them. It happened in my family. My father had been divorced from his second wife for TEN years when he died, yet she put a claim against his estate and held it up for 3 years. Plus my brother is a lawyer and the executor of our father's estate.

Things happen. Go figure.

And even if the gay couple had been married, it wouldn't have prevented the mother from putting a claim against her son's estate.


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First of all, congratulations to Eric Oliver and James "Bubba" Parker of the Oakleigh neighborhood in Mobile who recently flew to San Francisco to be married. Check it out--front page...www.mobileregister.com. I LOVE IT--A GAY MAN IN MOBILE, ALABAMA NICKNAMED "BUBBA!" I hope they will be very happy. They are courageous pioneers, and I certainly applaud their convictions that led them to fly across the country to carryout their personal wishes.

Will someone please, please explain to me how the marriage between a gay couple, two people who bleed red like every other human on the planet, two humans who love one another, would impact your life? How does it TRULY put you out, ruin your day, get your mojo in a twitter? How does it corrupt or endanger you?
If a gay, married male couple moves into your neighborhood are you fearful that there will be a rash of drive-by redecorating, or a frenzy of flower arranging held in the front yard? Will opera music played loudly on a summer day with the windows open threaten your very existence?
Or how about that lesbian couple that bought the fixer-upper down the street from you--can you believe that they got other lesbians to come over and help them put on a new roof? What about that cookout the lesbians might have, and what if they invited nothing but women and you could hear them laughing and having a good time in their back yard?
I'm totally enthralled with my gay male neighbor--we're two white people who live in a predominately black, historic urban neighborhood (we've got all the bases covered!)--we share a deck between our apartment buildings, and every spring, soon as the last frost has occurred, my gay male neighbor is out there planting and pruning and working his magic. Our deck becomes transformed into a Garden of Eden--absolutely glorious. We share it, but he takes pride in paying for all of it and maintaining it. His artistry with flowers and plants is one of the gifts God gave him. When Hurricane Isabel slammed Richmond last fall, this neighbor brought me ice and made the two of us dinner. If he would decide to marry another man, I would hope to be a bridesmaid in the wedding.
And, yes, gay rights are exactly the same thing as the rights blacks had to fight for-and the equal rights women had to fight for.
And gay rights will prevail---take a trip back in time and research the way America treated blacks and women before their day in the sun arrived. Blacks were considered to be inferior to whites and women were considered to be much less in every arena than their male counterparts. Women were not allowed to continue working in many office or public environments when it became obvious they were pregnant. Women, like blacks, at one time could not vote.
It's only a matter of time.
The idea that gay and lesbian folks choose the lifestyle is such an uninformed, uneducated, careless thought. Ask a gay or lesbian person if they're making a choice to be gay--ask them if they are tickled to death that they are who they are and that they literally live in danger because they have to be who they are. Oh....don't know any gay people to ask? Armchair expertise is such a goofy thing, don't ya think?
 
No one is against gay marriage - just same sex marriage. You could only say that they were being discriminated against if they were not allowed to marry at all.

Just as we cannot marry animals and we cannot marry blood relatives, we cannot marry within the same sex.

If a gay person wants to get married, he need only follow the same guidelines proscribed to the rest of America. Wherein lies the discrimination? If it doesn't exist, what is the basis for this nonsense?
 
VJ, I too, have known many gay people. I've worked with them, and have had at least two ice skating instructors who were gay. I've gotten along with them just fine, and have liked them. But I agree with you and others on this board about same sex marriage.

No, Homesick...the rest of us aren't living in a "bubble" - we're in the real world just like you are, and you needn't insinuate that we are less intelligent than you because we differ with you on this issue.
 
Nanny, Nanny, Nanny!

What am I to do with you? You are constantly feeling that I am insinuating that you are less intelligent than I am--you refer to this over and over, and I just don't get it. If I thought you lived in a bubble, I would write: "Nan, I think you live in a bubble."
You're reading far, far too much into my postings. I just happen to go beyond knowing a few gay people and thinking gay people are nice--I truly embrace and champion their causes, and I treasure their presence in my life and I really, truly believe that they should have marriage rights and legal rights like everyone else. Love is love. And I still am wondering what harm same-sex marriage poses to anyone else. Believing it is wrong and thinking that God doesn't like it are not nearly good enough reasons. Maybe it truly is a fear of opera after all.
 
Being gay makes you a MINORITY?!?

That is the most absurd thing I have ever heard. Being gay is a lifestyle CHOICE. I know there are pundits of the "gay gene", but it is all BS. Physiologically, we are designed to mate with the opposite sex.

Some people sleep around. I guess that CHOICE makes them a member of the permiscuity minority. Some people like to eat waffles without syrup. Get those people some rights!!!

Gay people do not get enough attention when they keep it to themselves, so they have to broadcast their CHOICE and wave it like a banner for all to see.

What they DON'T see is that all of their postering and ranting is no more than chewing over mouthfuls of stale vomit.
 
HomesickforBama said:

Believing it is wrong and thinking that God doesn't like it are not nearly good enough reasons.
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They are for most of us. I suggest that you read Romans I that someone in this forum called to our attention. So...if God doesn't "like it", that's not good enough for you? Oh my....



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I keep asking how gay folks who want to get married truly hurts other people, and so far I can't get an answer. How does it interfere with your day-to-day life? How does it affect your lifestyle or your choices or your freedoms?
How does it hurt you? How do two people who love each other and want and deserve a legally-sanctioned life together interfere with your dreams and aspirations?
All I get is rock-solid homophobia and anger. The very fact that there is an entire thread (and a growing one) on a website connected to a institution of higher learning in my home state that is completely and bitterly devoted to bashing homosexuals blows my mind. The fact that I graduated from that very institution of higher learning makes me cringe.
I don't think I'm so homesick any more.
Thomas Wolfe was right on the money.
 
Condoning gay marriage is just a further breakdown in our social and moral fabric.

What's next? Beastiality like in Sweden?

Then theft will be condoned? Finally murder?

Then what do we have left? Chaos.
 
<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by HomesickforBama:
I keep asking how gay folks who want to get married truly hurts other people, and so far I can't get an answer. How does it interfere with your day-to-day life? How does it affect your lifestyle or your choices or your freedoms?
How does it hurt you? How do two people who love each other and want and deserve a legally-sanctioned life together interfere with your dreams and aspirations?
All I get is rock-solid homophobia and anger. The very fact that there is an entire thread (and a growing one) on a website connected to a institution of higher learning in my home state that is completely and bitterly devoted to bashing homosexuals blows my mind. The fact that I graduated from that very institution of higher learning makes me cringe.
I don't think I'm so homesick any more.
Thomas Wolfe was right on the money.
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Some people believe it leads to the moral decay of society. If the vast majority of a society agrees then they have the right to set such standards. Why does the "minority" get to right set the standards and guidelines for the rest of us to live by? Why do we keep having o to alternate our life styles to accommodate others? A lot of "minority" groups don't want equal rights they want special rights.

Your argument above can be used for someone marrying their cousin(s), sister(s), brother(s), dog(s), blow up doll(s), or whatever they want. How can you claim that homosexuals have rights and should be allowed to marry but polygamists don't? What about those in incestual relationships? Who are we to deny a brother and sister from getting married? Or a brother and a brother? You cannot say one fringe group has rights and then deny others those same rights.

There is no discrimination. We are all restricted equally by the same laws, at least in Texas. I cannot marry someone of the same sex, I cannot marry my dog, I cannot marry my sister. Doesn't matter if I'm gay or not, the restrictions are the same. Like I wrote above, they want special rights, not equal rights.



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<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by HomesickforBama:
Nanny, Nanny, Nanny!

What am I to do with you? You are constantly feeling that I am insinuating that you are less intelligent than I am--you refer to this over and over, and I just don't get it. If I thought you lived in a bubble, I would write: "Nan, I think you live in a bubble."
You're reading far, far too much into my postings. I just happen to go beyond knowing a few gay people and thinking gay people are nice--I truly embrace and champion their causes, and I treasure their presence in my life and I really, truly believe that they should have marriage rights and legal rights like everyone else. Love is love. And I still am wondering what harm same-sex marriage poses to anyone else. Believing it is wrong and thinking that God doesn't like it are not nearly good enough reasons. Maybe it truly is a fear of opera after all.
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Did I say that you insinuate that I am less intelligent than YOU? I don't think so!

But everytime you "grace" us with your presence on rare occasions, you come in criticizing the South and Southerners in general, and insinuating that we're a bunch of snuff-sniffing, beer-drinking, redneck, pick-up driving ignoramuses, and only YOU have any sense. Only YOU are sophisticated, educated, articulate and speak eloquently. If we differ with you on issues, then we are not "in the know" like YOU are, we are backwards and stupid, because surely if we were as smart as YOU, we would think like YOU.

However, when someone jumps on you, you try to regress to a Southern Belle, sipping a mint julep, and sigh about how cruel and mean we are to YOU. You're horrified that anyone would dare to insult YOU. What do YOU expect?
In your words, if we would only leave the South, we would expand our education, therefore our intelligence, and we just MIGHT get to be as smart as YOU think you are!!!!!
 
Homesick said:

((All I get is rock-solid homophobia and anger.))

The very fact that there is an entire thread (and a growing one) on a website connected to a institution of higher learning in my home state that is completely and bitterly devoted to bashing homosexuals blows my mind. The fact that I graduated from that very institution of higher learning makes me cringe.
I don't think I'm so homesick any more.
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I gotta tell ya Homesick...calling people homophobic and/or racists doesn't work anymore. Those expressions have been so overused they have no meaning. It's like water running down a duck's back. Don't try to intimidate people by referring to them as homophobic.

BTW, your questions have been answered many times, you just don't listen.
 
Nan,

You just don't truly embrace their cause or treasure them enough.

I think I'll start my own cause, marrying the Olsen twins. No one tell my wife please, I don't think she will truly embrace or champion my cause even though I am being discriminated against.
 
Guys...guys...guys...

For those of you who sniff snuff, drink beer, and drive a pick-up truck, I didn't mean to insult YOU. I was using those things as an example of what some people think of us here in the South.

In fact, I think I just described my son-in-law, who incidently is from the North - lol.
 
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