Congratulations on your recovery, CB. My father had that disease, though in the 50s and 60s, it was viewed simply as bad behavior. Cost him dearly on a bunch of fronts, and the domino effect led to his death in the early 1970s at age 44.
I know it’s a daily battle, and I’m happy for you being able to resist for such a long time.
Outstandingly well done on fighting the good fight. Looking forward to hearing about the 30th and 40th anniversaries of your last bet. Not likely I’ll make the 50th, but I hope you do.
I appreciate the kind words. The biggest thing with almost all addictions is acceptance. Until I fully accepted my gambling problem and accepted the fact I was out of control and destroying my entire world, I couldn’t begin the process of “fixing myself”. It was that rock bottom moment where you realize you “clean up or you get locked up or covered up”. I was fortunate. My wife and best friend of almost 40 years stood by me. Why? I have no earthly idea. She deserved so much better. But she helped me learn that it is okay to say “yeah I’m different from other people”. I often tell my story at treatment centers and rehabs. I start off telling them “Guess what? You’re the “same kind of different as me”.
I’m so sorry about your father. Unfortunately my days in the meeting rooms has taught me that it is a far too common story, the same with alcoholics and other substance abusers. Prison, insanity, or death.
Jimmy John’s’ story about personal forgiveness and leading a “life of meaning” really touched me. It was the most difficult hurdle. Fully accepting responsibility for the ones I hurt, making amends and seeking their forgiveness. That was the easy part. I could not progress into a fully healthy recovery until I “forgave” myself. And I’m still “working” on it today.
Back more on topic, I’ve been in rooms with coaches/assistants of many sports, brokers, C suite executives having embezzled millions from their companies, and even those there as part of a court order while awaiting sentencing for various crimes related to their gambling addictions. In terms of those involved athletics, I’m surprised situations like this with Bohannon aren’t more frequent.