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If I might offer some advice.....

Get on with your life and just let things happen on their own.

In the meantime....focus 110% on yourself.

Improving as many aspects of your life as possible.

Fitness, mental and spiritual health, finance, lifestyle, and most of all attitude. Work on your styling and domestic skills.....most importantly the ability to cook and create dishes with little effort.

If you don't already have a subscription to Men's Health - get one. And read it every month.

Maybe you are already doing this - I don't know.

But the very worse thing you can do as a man is be unhappy because of the status of your social life - and in particular with the opposite sex.

My advice applies to both sexes too. And by the way....women have already figured all this out.

My last piece of advice is to enjoy the solitude, peace, and tranquility while you can.

There are many who only wish they could have that back again!

And remember...a good man is hard to come by these days. That's the secret you won't hear from the opposite sex. So hell.....you've good value, my brother. All you gotta do now is act the part!

It's all in the mind......
 
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Grocery stores are (IMHO) an IDEAL way to meet chicks.

It's a place where almost everyone has to go at some point each week = target rich environment.

No loud annoying music.

No loud annoying drunks (most of the time :))

You can (discretely) scout your prey ahead of time to determine whether or not you want to waste your time.

Part of that is observing her tastes in food....how she carriers herself in public.....and if she's wearing a wedding ring (that's a biggie!).

Cycling is good too. You need to keep doing that.....but do it for yourself. If something happens it happens.

As far as the one in your office.....you really need to flush her out of your brain 100%. Didn't you say she had kids? Yikes! :oops:

But go back to my prior post. The most important point is to focus on yourself only and 100% stop stressing about women. Try that for a few months and see how much better you feel. And don't forget this:

https://shop.menshealth.com/mens-he...KloYeGYBp9Mq2g3nhuMaAnWkEALw_wcB&gad_source=1

Make sure you get the actual (print) magazine. You want the latest edition laying on your coffee table when she comes over.....

I used to subscribe to GQ as well but Men's Health alone is a good start for ya.....
 
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This woman in your office seems drawn to abusive relationships. She needs professional help to break that cycle and if she is drawn to money you can’t do anything about that.

Is there a Bama watch group in your area? That probably wouldn’t be likely to have an over abundance of single women but you never know. Another downside is that the group would be spending several hours in a bar watching the game. I don’t know if you drink (or drink a lot) so that might not be your scene. I’m guessing someone into long distance bike riding probably wouldn’t want to spend all day sitting in a bar but just a suggestion.
 
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Sometimes the answer is the simple ones. Maybe she is aware that you do not approve of the person that she is dating. Maybe he knows you are actively trying to stop them from dating and has given her an ultimatum. Maybe she has decided that she can't have guy friends because she is in a committed relationship.

I find it interesting that you are willing to date a coworker, which many people will steer clear, however other main stream ways of meeting people is off the table for you. It may be worth investing some time the thought processes that go along with those.

With dating, there are no wrong answers, you have to do what is comfortable. That is within reason(ie adultery is wrong of course). I spent decades refusing to date around. I would invest all my energy into dating 1 person at a time. I felt like I couldn't give a person a fair chance if I was playing the field. I decided that my approach wasn't working and needed to adjust. I started dating around a little more and found my wife while casually dating.
 
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Why can't women just tell you why they are mad? Why must men play detective to figure out what they possibly could have done or said? Ignoring or the silent treatment does not give ant clues.
 
If the lady you’re interested in is currently dating a jerk, it’s going to end badly for her. It’s just a matter of when.

Thing is, no matter how right you are in your assessment of him, you won’t win her favor by trashing the guy. You might even drive her closer to him. Just let it play out (it’s not like you have a ton of other options), and be the first best alternative when it blows up….because it will.

Meanwhile, put yourself out there, as you are with the website and cycling group. Maybe you find somebody. Maybe you don’t. But you don’t make yourself more attractive — to either the lady at hand or to new people — by pining for something that’s currently our of reach.

Regarding the job, discretion is big. If you’re that unhappy, explore other opportunities. Just don’t broadcast what you’re doing — which is really easy to do at the coffee machine or after-work drinks. There is no confidentiality on this sort of thing.

Plus, any industry is a smaller world than you think. People talk even when they have a duty not to. You‘re speaking volumes about what you think just by looking elsewhere. No need to trash your current employer. Just makes you look whiny and bitter — neither of which will potential employers find particularly attractive qualities.

In both romance and career, you rarely lose by taking the high road.

Voice of experience. During my working life, I made a lot of the mistakes I’m cautioning you against. I saw all of them.
 
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Crimson1967 said:
Here’s something my wife does that drives me crazy. She will tell me a story but starts in the middle so I have no idea what she is talking about. Basically, she leaves off the first paragraph and I am totally lost.
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Welcome to the club brother, my wife does it, and my mom does it to my dad. LOL!
 
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