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There`s such a thing as an addictive personality. As hard as it may be to comprehend, women can ( certainly not always ) be drawn to men with abusive personalities similar to other significant men in their lives ( fathers, brothers, exs, etc. ). It`s actually, unfortunately, not that uncommon.
 
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Hearing that she has two ex-husbands that beat her (along with this current beau) tells me she has some psychological problems that draw her to these types of relationships. I know that sounds like I’m blaming the victim but she needs professional help.

Does she have any children? How old is she?
 
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Nothing wrong with wanting to help others out of a bad situation! Just remember that trying to save someone from drowning often means 2 drowning deaths! You can try to help at arms length.
 
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We are somewhat battling that right now with our 16 year old. She is on the autistic spectrum and does not require or seek out social situations. She has been dating a boy for a year that also seems to be on the spectrum. He has some personality issues that, if he was not on the spectrum, would be huge red flags. He will not agree to spend time with her unless it is an activity that he wants to do. Most of the time he has to be the one to initiate a date. Basically all dates have to be on his terms. He has also complained that they don't see each other often enough outside of school.

I had a conversation with her last night about how we were not stepping in an attempt to force a change. But I explained that under normal circumstances that would be considered a toxic relationship. Ultimately, we did not want her to become accustom to being treated that way in a relationship.
 
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No apologies needed, brother. Find you a woman that has the same values and goals in life. Regardless of how long it takes you, it’ll payoff in the end. A woman can make or break any man and often do.
 
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Here's something I've learned about women over my 22+ years of marriage. "Security", which includes finances, is part of a lot of women's "love language". A woman likes to feel safe, on more levels than just physically. Most men's "love language" isn't made up of financial security, but rather, physical touch aka "sex", and affirmation, aka "feeling appreciated/needed/respected". So what is often referred to as a "gold digger", is actually nothing more than a woman acting out of her natural love language. Granted, the degrees are definitely different, but you see the principle at work in most women.
 
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Here's something I've learned about women over my 22+ years of marriage. "Security", which includes finances, is part of a lot of women's "love language". A woman likes to feel safe, on more levels than just physically. Most men's "love language" isn't made up of financial security, but rather, physical touch aka "sex", and affirmation, aka "feeling appreciated/needed/respected". So what is often referred to as a "gold digger", is actually nothing more than a woman acting out of her natural love language. Granted, the degrees are definitely different, but you see the principle at work in most women.
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I think the problem we are seeing with a lot of women in today's society is that they look at what the man can provide for the relationship instead of what they can bring to it. I have been married for over 44 years. When we first got married my wife worked part-time and went to school. Then we had 2 kids and she stayed at home until they started school. We struggled some but made it. Then she finished school and got her nursing degree and started working full-time. I went back to school, part-time, while working.Then quit my job and went to school full-time while working part-time. Got my nursing degree. Three years ago we both went part-time to ease into retirement. Two years ago I was done with healthcare and became a full-time house husband with my wife's blessing. She works 2 12 hour shifts a week, we have health, dental and vision care. She's very happy with this arrangement and so am I. She is going to retire at the end of 2024 when we both start on Medicare. God has been good to us. Better than we deserve. Marriage takes work. Both people have to give and take. You have to have balance and can't expect one person to do everything. Compromise is something you have to learn.
 
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Bamabuzzard said:
Here's something I've learned about women over my 22+ years of marriage. "Security", which includes finances, is part of a lot of women's "love language". A woman likes to feel safe, on more levels than just physically. Most men's "love language" isn't made up of financial security, but rather, physical touch aka "sex", and affirmation, aka "feeling appreciated/needed/respected".
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So, you are advocating transient relationships with hookers?
 
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