Yes. If we are up 20 it doesn't matter when we get screwed by the refs. But that doesn't mean that we weren't screwed by the refs, and it doesn't mean that said screwing wasn't the reason we lost the game given the circumstances. That's my problem with your logic. It assumes that that since we could have done something earlier in the game where getting screwed wouldn't have lost us the game that we can't blame the refs for screwing us. I refuse to accept that. Maybe if Vandy were a bad team, but they are not. When you play good teams, you expect close, hard fought games. The fact that they are close and hard fought makes what the refs did worse, not better.
Maybe we are looking at it from two different angles.
I am looking at it from the "how do we use the experience to get better" angle. If you put the loss last night solely on the officials, a facet of the game that we have absolutely no control over, what does that tell the players? Why play that hard if you're just going to get screwed by the officials and it's simply the luck of the draw who gets screwed?
I played (or at least practiced a lot) for a large 6A program in Alabama. You can't imagine some of the home-cooking I saw when we would play teams from the surrounding counties, and there's nothing you can do but play through it. It's tough when it happens at the end, but we always tried, largely successfully, to take it out of the hands of the officials, because we knew which way that would go.
If, however, what if you choose to say that yes, we had some bad calls in the last couple of minutes, but we could have taken care of all of that by doing a better job on defense (they scored right on their average while we gave up a lot more points than usual), using better shot selection (2-15 from three, with one of those being a prayer by Green, when we were pretty much carving up their zone defense), and just generally playing better? Doesn't that take the games from crapshoots to something that is more within their control?
Regardless of how bad the officiating was last night, and it left something to be desired, the result of the game will not change. Just like it didn't change as a result of the no-call PI against LSU in football several years ago. Play better, get further ahead, and take it out of the officials' hands. It's that simple.
If we still don't see eye-to-eye, then we'll have to agree to disagree.